Familiarity breeds contempt.
A common statement, yet very few really know it. Although it is included in my list of mental quotes for everyday discussion, I have not heard it or variations of it being said (nor have I said it) so often in such a short span of time. And what's even more surprising, I am finding out that it is indeed true. Familiarity does indeed breed contempt. Rubbing elbows with the same people everyday may indeed cause a strain.
Now, let us back up a little here. For those not so familiar with the saying, let me help you understand it. When people have been so close to each other for quite some time, despite any relationship they have with each other (regardless if they're relatives, friends, lovers, and others), there will come a point in that relationship, most especially if the things they do are routine in nature, that they will eventually run out of things to say and do with each other. When this happens, they just seem to grow tired of each other, and all the "emo" stuff just starts to happen. You fill in the details.![kenyit]( "kenyit")
I bet you're thinking right now, "All this is Bull$&*+! that won't happen if they care for each other." True, so, let me clarify. As I mentioned earlier, "especially if the things they do are routine in nature."Id est, their relationship has just become boring. And let me clarify, relationships include but are not limited to couples, friends, and relatives. With that said, the lesson here is to make your relationships as unpredictable and as spontaneous as you can. Offer yourselves some "me" time, so everyone has something new to say to each other. That way, you become "unfamiliar" once again and contemptuous no more. And you have more stories to share to each other.
Why am I writing this? No, I have no intentions of becoming a relationship guru, and I don't have plans to change my blog to that effect. And no, I currently have no problems with Butet. In fact, we are doing quite fine, thank you very much. It's because I realized in my life that the friendships (and relationships) that lasted are those that have passed the test of time and absence. This is as truthful as true relationships can ever go. These are the relationships that will surely be around in the next 10 to 30 years of my life. And these are the relationships I'd like to keep: unpretentious and unassuming. And always, spontaneous.
To that, let me rewrite the saying posted earlier to a lighter yet more meaningful version of it,
Now, let us back up a little here. For those not so familiar with the saying, let me help you understand it. When people have been so close to each other for quite some time, despite any relationship they have with each other (regardless if they're relatives, friends, lovers, and others), there will come a point in that relationship, most especially if the things they do are routine in nature, that they will eventually run out of things to say and do with each other. When this happens, they just seem to grow tired of each other, and all the "emo" stuff just starts to happen. You fill in the details.
I bet you're thinking right now, "All this is Bull$&*+! that won't happen if they care for each other." True, so, let me clarify. As I mentioned earlier, "especially if the things they do are routine in nature."Id est, their relationship has just become boring. And let me clarify, relationships include but are not limited to couples, friends, and relatives. With that said, the lesson here is to make your relationships as unpredictable and as spontaneous as you can. Offer yourselves some "me" time, so everyone has something new to say to each other. That way, you become "unfamiliar" once again and contemptuous no more. And you have more stories to share to each other.
Why am I writing this? No, I have no intentions of becoming a relationship guru, and I don't have plans to change my blog to that effect. And no, I currently have no problems with Butet. In fact, we are doing quite fine, thank you very much. It's because I realized in my life that the friendships (and relationships) that lasted are those that have passed the test of time and absence. This is as truthful as true relationships can ever go. These are the relationships that will surely be around in the next 10 to 30 years of my life. And these are the relationships I'd like to keep: unpretentious and unassuming. And always, spontaneous.
To that, let me rewrite the saying posted earlier to a lighter yet more meaningful version of it,
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
